Minsan, bilang isang partner sa isang relationship, may mga panahon na magaaway tayo regarding with priorities, (family, schedule, religion, etc). Hinding hindi to maiiwasan kahit saan, ung tipong selos sa oras. hehehe… 

I think last night, I was browsing through the net and saw multiple posts and messages regarding people who are having a hard time with their partners (bf/gf) who do other things rather than spend time with them. Pero does this issue have to be an ISSUE at all? I think not…

We have our own sets of responsibilities and own set of problems and family. If we are in a relationship that both partners really do love, then priorities should be understood all the time. Sabi sa Bible, our number one priority is to Love God with everything we have. Pero in our case, with relationships, I do believe (if we are not still married), that priorities should be first our families, then with our special somebody, then friends. Di ko na muna ilalagay dito ung priority natin reagarding sa work, ourselves, spirit, etc etc. Let us focus first with the people that are close to us.

Why do I say that we must prioritize our families first? 

Sino ba nagluwal satin sa mundo? Sino ba nagpaaral satin? Sino ung palagi natin kasama sa hirap at ginhawa simula pa nung mga chikiting pa lang tayo? Pamilya natin. We may not all have a perfect childhood family but think about it. If they did not love you or do not even care for you, you would not even read this small note I am writing. Now, lilinawin ko lang, this is for non-married individuals. Kung married na kau, ofcourse, prioritize your family first. :-). Pero for now, sa mga panahong ito, ilaan natin ung panahon natin sakanila. Alam ba natin kung bakit? Because there will come a time that we will leave them and be with our own family. Kaya cherish every moment, every problem, everything kasama sila.

Why relationships next?

After family, ofcourse we should prioritize our partners. Hindi ako makakapagbigay ng exact technique sa pagpprioritize but I believe that each one has their own techniques on these matters. Bakit nga pla sla bf/gf ang isususnod natin? Kasi sila ung magiging next na kasama natin sa pagbubuo ng family. Kung gusto nila kasama kau sa weekend kasi wala lang, trip lang, then go. Kung nagaalburuto sila dahil sa isang bagay, then understand. If they want something so bad, and you could give then that, then try to provide. I sunod natin sila kasi sila ung magiging kasama natin susunod at sila din ung magiging kasama natin sa pagssuporta sa family natin.

Why friends?

No man is an island, and I believe that sa lahat ng oras, ung mga totoong friends ang lagi nating magiging kasama. We may still be struggling with our families, loved ones, etc, pero all the time Friends will always be there to tap your shoulder and say “Hey, everything’s goin to be ok, dingwat”, or “Gungong, ikaw kasi.”Kaya palagi natin iingatan ung mga kaibigan natin.

I say these things in my own opinion. I do not say to dump your relationship to take care of your family or dump everything for your friends. These are simply my own pointers to myself regarding priorities. Hindi sya madali, dahil I myself still experience a hard time understanding these things. Madalas din kami nagaaway ng girlfriend ko but the good thing is that we both know where to place our priorities and understand each other. I understand it. My girlfriend understands it. My friends know it. It really does bring a harmonic happiness in everyone if really done right. 

But of course, hindi naman to mangyayari kung walang guidance ni God. So ask guidance and wisdom, not only for you, but also to the people around you. 🙂

God bless!